Infertility is the Result of Selflessness

Infertility is the result of selflessness.

Your body is forcing you to be selfish before you are able to bear and raise your own child. Because if you cannot honor your true self, you cannot possibly be there for your child. You will be an empty vessel of a parent. How can you teach your child to honor who they are, and whom they are meant to be if you cannot do it yourself?

Obviously, there are physical reasons and components to infertility. I am not denying it at all. Having said that, you can focus on all these physical aspects and not really get any results because you are neglecting, ignoring, and denying the emotional component of infertility which is your selflessness.

Be selfish and you will be ready to bear children. When I say “selfish” I don’t mean in the narcissistic way that our parents often were. For example, it was selfish of my mother to use me as a child to be her emotional support system so she could avoid her own pain.

I only use the word “selfish” because you have developed a negative connotation to honoring your true self, to the point that doing something good for your soul is somehow “selfish.” I want you to embrace the word and the very thing you have such disdain for, which is selfishness because it is the very thing that will free you.

Your trauma taught you to be selfless. Your trauma taught you that your feelings and needs do not matter and do not exist. Being selfish undoes the trauma because you are putting into action and therefore affirming the truth that you do matter.