Love your pain

Happy halloween from the Hsu’s!

Pain is a misconception. We think pain is a bad thing but it’s not. First off, if you were not able to feel physical pain and you left your hand on a burning stove, you would be without a hand. Pain tells us what we need to know and what we need to feel. 

We have a general negative perception of pain but “pain” is the presence of our inner child. When we push our pain away, we not only push ourselves away but our inner child as well. Our inner child already feels alone, invisible, and worthless, and when we push our pain and our feelings away, our inner child only feels that much more alone, invisible, and worthless. 

Pain is your source of light. 

Pain is the key to life. 

Pain is your holy grail.

The one thing we spend every moment of our lives running away from, dreading and trying to defeat, is the one and only thing that can save us. 

In many ways, pain is not pain. Pain is the presence of your inner child. Yes, you may be feeling the pain of your inner child, but by feeling their pain, you acknowledge them. Feeling your inner child’s pain is what gives them everlasting peace. 

Stop demonizing your pain. Every movie in the world talks about the fight between good versus evil. Good versus evil is a complete myth constructed by our ego so we can project our “pain” onto what we deem as evil. We want to project our pain to avoid feeling it which only perpetuates our pain because we are essentially pushing our inner child away. 

We are constantly pursuing happiness, peace, and success - because we are essentially trying to run away from how we feel and thereby abandoning ourselves. 

Embrace your pain. 

Love your pain. 

Listen to your pain.

In doing so, you will embrace, love, and listen to your inner child.  

Pain does not need to be healed, because your inner child is not broken.  

I know, in reading this, you are probably thinking I am some masochist. Running away from pain is what creates pain. Running away from pain or trying to defeat it is true masochism. 

“Suffering is the avoidance of pain.” 

Imagine you are running, and you trip and fall on the asphalt. Your bare leg scrapes against the asphalt, making you bleed profusely. That is pain. However, choosing not to go to the hospital is suffering and will cause you to bleed to death.

When we avoid our “pain” through the pursuit of happiness and peace, we create a life filled with misery and suffering. 

Do not abandon yourself anymore. Do not abandon your inner child in ways they were abandoned emotionally as a child. 

I understand you had to abandon your feelings by blocking them out as a child so you wouldn’t feel the immense pain. However, that doesn’t work anymore and that only perpetuates the pain and trauma for your inner child. 

Love and accept your pain as a part of yourself, and you will love and accept your inner child as a part of yourself thereby reversing their trauma.